‘Here is a trustworthy saying: whoever aspires to be an overseer desires a noble task.  Now the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money.  He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him, and he must do so in a manner worthy of full respect.  (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?)’

1 Timothy 3:1-5

[a post by Mark]

 ‘Charity begins at home…’ so says the old saying, and in reality so does also any form of leadership.  


If you read any sort of leadership blog or book almost all of them will quickly tell you that the hardest person to lead is yourself!


And in a church leadership context this will often be followed by the comment that the ‘the first church God gives you to lead is your own family.’


As personally challenging as I find to write this, if I can’t first of all lead myself or display genuine love, care and compassion in my own home then in the word’s of Paul to Timothy, ‘how can I take care of God’s church?’


We are all aware of so called ‘experts’ who seem, on the face of it at least to be full of wise advice, but this can quickly take on quite a hollow tone when it’s shown that their ‘walk’ does not match up to their ‘talk.’


If you carry any form of recognised leadership responsibility then it’s likely that you are already feeling the challenge of these comments. But the reality is that all of us as believers have been commissioned to ‘let our light shine’, to display to family, friends, neighbours and work colleagues by our life and our actions, who Jesus really is – It’s not what we say as much as who and how we are that will speak volumes.


A Question to consider: 

Are you spending hours and hours in volunteer work or working ‘for the church’ but at the same time neglecting your personal walk with God, or your children, your wife or your husband?  Ask God for the grace and wisdom to get the balance right.


Think About:

In 1 Tim 4:12 Paul encourages Timothy to ‘set an example for the believers in speech, in life, in love, in faith and in purity…’

Put your name in the place of Timothy’s; allow the Holy Spirit to speak to you about those areas that you need to grow in or indeed to change.


Prayer points: 

  • Pray for the leaders who oversee our church – Ask God to strengthen them in their personal faith, Pray too for their marriages and for their children.
  • Ask God to help you with wisdom and grace to know the right balance between managing your own life and family context and serving others.
  • Ask God for the strength to live a life of integrity that both your private and public life might display Him.